Not from dragons, crooks, or flaming building, nor from kidnappers or over priced clothing.
Save yourself for your husband, save yourself from the lie the world is trying to make you believe. The lie that says, “If you are thirsty drink, if you are hungry eat. If you want to feel love, have sex.”
Wow! Didn’t see that one coming did you? Didn’t think that was the lie, thought that was the truth. Sorry to burst your bubble, but that is not the Truth. Only God is the Truth, and listen to what He says about having sex before marriage.
Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God’s people. Obscene stories, foolish talk, and coarse jokes—these are not for you. Instead let there be thankfulness to God. You can be sure that no immoral, impure, or greedy person will inherit the Kingdom of God. For a greedy person is an idolater worshipping the things of this world.
But, where is the fun in that? Didn’t God just say not to have fun?
There is fun, a whole lot of it. God didn’t create sex to be outside of marriage, he made it to be enjoyed in the safety of a healthy, committed relationship founded on him. And I don’t mean boring sex.
Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. She is a loving deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.
This verse is talking to men, but it also applies to women. And do you see the important word there? Captivated. Still didn’t get it? CAPTIVATED.
God wants you to be captivated, enthralled, and consumed by your spouse’s love. God is all about love. You ever want to read what is God’s plan for your love, read Song of Songs. It is so full of eroticism it puts Fifty Shades of Grey to shame. (Not that I’ve ever read FSoG, or ever want to)
Now, why would I be talking about love, what has this got to do with Saving Yourself?
You see, the only way you can experience this amazing love God has planned for you, you need to obey God’s commands. He doesn’t say, “You shall not commit adultery” for nothing. Like everything God does, there is a method to his “madness”.
That is all fine and dandy for older people who have nothing left to enjoy in life, Kayla, but I want to be free, have fun. It won’t hurt anything.
Yes, it will.
A liberal study showed that the people who have the most sexual fulfillment are not porn stars, teenagers, or any person who has sex outside of marriage, but those who waited until they got married to have sex. Not only is that, but the people with the highest sexual fulfillment out of that group the people who were “religiously active”.[i]
Compare that to the fact that those who cohabitate before marriage have a 50% higher rate of divorce, and are more likely to experience infidelity in marriage. [ii]
Let me tell you some more facts. Aproximently 3,000,000 teenage girls get pregnant in the US every year, eight out of ten of those pregnancies are unplanned.
A girl can get pregnant the first time she has sex.
The introduction of sex into a dating relationship has a 75% chance of ushering in the breakup of the relationship. [iii]
Divorce, infidelity, pregnancy, who cares about that, right? Let me tell you some facts closer to home.
Each year 1 in 4 sexually active teens get a STD. In 1950 there were 2 well known types of STDs. Today, there are 25.[iv]
I don’t do sex, you might say. I only do oral sex. Well let me tell you oral is not much different than true sex. Yes, you still get to carry you “virginity card”, but you can still get STD from oral. [v]
Are these facts letting you see the truth? Are they convincing you to save yourself? Or are they just the same old facts your parents, grandparents, and older, stuffy people have been yelling at you since you turned 12?
What more will it take to convince you? Will it be years from now, when Mr. Right is kneeling in front of you, asking you to be Mrs. Right, and you have to tell him that you have an incurable disease? Will it be not so far away, when your boyfriend who you trusted and wanted to marry dumps you because you told him you were pregnant? Or will it be many years from now, when your little princess asks you that dreaded question, “Mommy, did you wait?”
If it is already too late, if you feel like you are dirty, that no one will ever love you, think of this verse.
For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only son. That whoever believes in him shall not perish, but have eternal life.
Or think of this verse.
But now God has shown us a way to be made right with him without keeping the requirements of the law, as was promised in the writings of Moses and the prophets long ago. We were made right with God by placing our faith in Jesus Christ. And this is true for everyone who believes, no matter who we are. For everyone has sinned; we fall short of God’s glorious standard. Yet God, in his grace, freely makes us right in his sight. He did this through Jesus Christ when he freed us from the penalty of our sins.
Romans 3:21-24 (emphasis mine)
Or the story of Rahab. She was a prostitute, but God used her in his plans, and was later honored by God by being placed into Jesus’ lineage (Matthew 1:5). And her faith was credited to her as righteousness (Hebrews 11:31). Talk about God washing our sins away till we are as white as snow!
So what will you choose? Will you make that choice that you will never be able to undo, the choice that you trade your life for a few moments of pleasure, that you will never be able to leave, that will haunt you for the rest of your life, always popping up when you least expect it.
Or will you choose peace, the life that God wants you to have.
Wait for Him.
[i] DeMoss, Nancy Leigh., and Dannah Gresh. Lies Young Women Believe: And the Truth That Sets Them Free. Chicago, IL: Moody, 2007. Print.
[ii] Ingram, Chip. Culture Shock: A Biblical Response to Today's Most Divisive Issues. Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House, 2015. Print.
[iii] Covey, Sean. The 6 Most Important Decisions You'll Ever Make: A Guide for Teens. New York: Fireside, 2006. Print.
[iv] Covey, Sean. The 6 Most Important Decisions You'll Ever Make: A Guide for Teens. New York: Fireside, 2006. Print.
[v] Covey, Sean. The 6 Most Important Decisions You'll Ever Make: A Guide for Teens. New York: Fireside, 2006. Print.